The fire model is a way of looking at & understanding conflict as if it were a fire. In order for there to be a fire, three things need to be present – fuel, a spark (ignition) & oxygen. If any one of these is not present or is removed there can be no fire.
Examples of fuel might be:
Examples of spark might be:
Examples of oxygen might be:
Think about a conflict you have been involved in. What was the fuel, spark & oxygen? What would have happened if any of those factors had not been present?
We can perhaps stretch this analogy further. There are certain things that might be considered accelerants and things that could be considered extinguishers. The use of certain of certain language, or raised voices, or comments from those not involved may cause minor conflicts to ‘flare’ up. An apology, a compromise, a helpful calming word from third party, or a humorous comment can all, in certain circumstances act as a ‘fire blanket’.
But as with real fires we need to fight them with the right extinguisher. Water thrown on burning paper will extinguish the flame. Water on burning fat will cause an explosion.